The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast
The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast
Episode 1: The Curvy Girl Dating Coach
In this debut episode of the Curvy Girl Dating Podcast, Cristina Gonzalez, also known as The Curvy Girl Dating Coach, introduces herself and shares her personal dating journey. Cristina discusses the challenges plus-size women face in the dating world, debunks myths about weight and love, and emphasizes the importance of self-confidence and enjoying life while single. She outlines future podcast themes, including dating profiles, body image, confidence, and overcoming dating rejection. Cristina's goal is to help plus-size women stop settling in love and start enjoying their dating experiences.
00:00 Welcome to the Curvy Girl Dating Podcast
00:45 Meet Your Host: Cristina Gonzalez
01:44 Cristina's Dating Journey
03:45 The Struggles of Online Dating
07:00 Finding Love and Self-Acceptance
10:38 Conclusion and Thank You
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You are listening to the Curvy Girl Dating Podcast, Episode One. I am The Curvy Girl Dating Coach. Hi, I'm Cristina. After 10 years of dating, I was tired of attracting the wrong type of guys and thinking I had to lose weight to find love. I finally figured out how to date and I found the love I thought I would never find. Each week. I'll teach you dating advice, share dating stories and help you ditch the dating drama. My goal is to help you have fun dating and create the life you love. If you're ready to take your dating to another level, then listen up and let's go. Hello everyone. Welcome to the first episode of my podcast. My name is Cristina Gonzalez and I am the curvy girl dating coach. I am a dating coach for plus size women who are ready to stop settling and start enjoying their life while they are single and dating. I just wanted to start this first episode by talking a little bit, what it's going to be about and introducing myself. This is going to be a casual podcast that has a lot of different topics and I'll just speak a little bit about my dating experiences and offer some dating advice or if anybody would like to be coached since I am a dating coach. We could do episodes on that. I want to interview people some of my clients, if they're willing So I don't have a clear set idea yet, the beauty is that we're going to work with imperfection and just have a good time winging it. A little bit about me. I am 40. I will be 41 this year. I was single between 27 and 37. I I had a breakup when I was 27, I broke up with my boyfriend on my sister's wedding day. That's a whole nother story, but I broke up with my long term relationship. It was like three years or something. And I just was gutted as far as not necessarily with the breakup, because I was really at peace with that. But With the idea that I had to start over and I had this timeline that I had to, keep in my life because I was raised or taught to do things in a specific order. I was supposed to go to school, supposed to graduate. I was supposed to go to college and find this career. I was supposed to graduate from that and, find a good job. And Marry the person that I was with and have kids and do the picket fence and all the things like I thought life had to go in that order and it couldn't change. So when I was 27, I had graduated from college. I broke up with my long term relationship. When it hit me and settled in that I was 27 and didn't have anybody. And I was just like, oh my God, what am I going to do? I'm going to have to find someone. I'm going to have to. Fall in love with them We're going to have to get married all before I'm 30, because 30 means if I'm still single and I'm still dating, then my life is over, and I'm never going to find somebody. So for some reason, I decided that 30 years old was the number that meant between my life was going to be great or it was going to be terrible. So I just kept that mentality and I was dating and dating and going on first dates. I had never done online dating before. Like I had been in a relationship pre iPhone to iPhone. So I started a relationship with the flip phones where you had to check your to go and get a photo, right to the world of iPhones and online dating and people wanting to FaceTime and just be like, Oh, let's talk to me on FaceTime. And. I'm like, I'm not dressed right. my hair's dirty;. I don't have makeup on I don't want to FaceTime you, dude. I don't know you and stuff like that. So it's really weird and really different for me when I chose to online date. And I went back and forth between, online dating and real life dating, all the things. So anyhow, long story short, I turn 30. I was still single. I was doing well with my career and everything. And I was having a great time in my life, but I didn't have anybody. And I thought my life was over. So I bought a house It was my gift to myself for my 30th year. And It made me feel great. I use that as a guide on a level up of the kind of relationship I was looking for, because I wanted to find somebody who had their own place, and whether it was, a house or not just having their own place. And there's just different qualifications and things that I thought that I had to have. I don't know about qualifications, but standards or preferences, that I was looking into for somebody. So moving forward, there's 31, 32, 33 hits, every single year, I hated my birthday. I didn't want to celebrate it because it wasn't something to celebrate. It was something to be sad about because I was still single and whatever. And so along that whole time, I was getting unsolicited advice, Oh, if you just went to the gym and lost this much weight, then I'm sure you would find somebody and, Oh, just all this stuff. it ended up being about my weight. my preferences online were maybe not as honest like my body type, was when you like select what kind of body type you are like I don't know if I was as honest. I think my vision of my body type is a little different sometimes. Or not like the societal norm or whatever. I think I made my life a little bit more difficult, which that will be a podcast episode in the future. I just ended up realizing that. At the time I was realizing that it was all about my weight. I had it all going on. I was pretty great. my life, it's good. My family's great. I have a job, a career I have this, I have that, everything's great, but no boyfriend, no relationship. So It had to have been because of my weight, because I felt like everything else was great. I'm attractive for people, whatever it is, maybe not for everybody, but that's a preference and that's okay. That's the point, right? So I feel that I am. Attractive enough to find somebody. And I thought it had to be because of my weight. And again, moving forward, there are 34, 35, 36, finally at 37, when I was 10 years single I did meet somebody and we're currently in a relationship now, so it'll be going on four years. So we're happy. Everything is great. His name is Ryan and we love each other. Everything's all good. But, it took a long time for me to get there, and I just want people to know that it's just going to take the amount of time that it's going to take. And. You might not find somebody, but you might, but enjoy your life while you're doing it don't be sad and grumpy that you don't have somebody be amazing, go and live an amazing life and find somebody to like, compliment you, you're already a whole complete person. So Don't be like, I'm looking for somebody to complete me, I'd be in the peanut butter to my jelly. No, you are the peanut butter and the jelly and the bread and all the things. So just, find somebody that compliments you. maybe you'll find the glass of milk. You know what I'm saying? So I am excited about this podcast. I don't know what's going to come of it. But I know that. We're going to have fun. We're going to wing it. It's going to be interesting, to some people and funny and maybe sad sometimes and all the things. So I am very much looking forward to creating this podcast and I Love to hear your ideas or your thoughts and send me an email. I'll list that email. I'll make it available, it's always, it's on Instagram. I'm at the curvy girl dating coach on Instagram. It's all one word. So just send me a message. Tell me what you want to know. And I would love to Create an episode about it. But I already have some ideas would be talking about dating profiles, how to make a great one photos and your thoughts about photos and what photos mean to you. And just all kinds of photo things, right? Photo related, body image kind of things. Confidence being on the apps your Self esteem around your body and about your, emotional and physical and mental well being all things. How to think and feel when you're on a date or when you're about to date or when you're thinking about dating, like the progression how that will be successful versus where are you going to get stuck or stay stuck and not Progress. so things like that. And then rejection. I don't think it's rejection. I think it's very efficient and convenient for people to tell you that they're not interested, but we'll talk about that. And being the third wheel, I used to always go to dinners with my friends, during the holidays that they're all couples that I'm just by myself and, how to make the best of it, just different things like that. How to just live in an independent life and. Have a good time and just be a single person that is having a blast in life and be secure in the idea that you can be single and happy and it's not going to be the end of the world. Eventually that person will find you or you'll find them and you can compliment each other and be the sandwich in the milk. So yes. Welcome to my podcast. all about dating, all about being single, all about girl talk and having a great time. So thanks again. Thank you so much for listening and I hope you're looking forward to the next episode. Thanks. Bye.