Episode 22: Lessons from Mexico

In Episode 22 of The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast, Cristina shares her reflections from a recent family vacation in Mexico. She discusses learning the importance of moderation with drinking, her struggles with body image and the hesitation to wear a two-piece bathing suit, and the value of embracing and cherishing moments with loved ones. Cristina highlights the significance of self-acceptance, the joy found in genuine experiences, and the need to enjoy life without letting insecurities hold you back.

00:00 Introduction to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast
00:38 Vacation Recap: Fun in Mexico
01:28 Lesson 1: Enjoy Without Overdrinking
03:19 Lesson 2: Embrace Your Body
12:19 Lesson 3: Cherish the Moments
14:58 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

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Transcript

Cristina: 0:00

You are listening to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast, Episode 22: Lessons From Mexico. Hi, I'm Cristina. After 10 years of dating, I was tired of attracting the wrong type of guys and thinking I had to lose weight to find love. I finally figured out how to date and I found the love I thought I would never find each week. I'll teach you dating advice, share dating stories and help you ditch the dating drama. My goal is to help you have fun and create the life you love. If you're ready to take your dating to another level, then listen up and let's go. Hello everyone. How are you today? I just got back from vacation in Mexico. We did a family vacation at a all-inclusive resort in Playa Del Carmen and we had so much fun. We left on Thanksgiving day. My sister and her family, my parents and Ryan and I all went and my aunt and we had a great time. So anyhow, I've been absent for two weeks, but I am here now and we're back and ready to go. I was going to take the Tuesday after Thanksgiving off and continue into the next Tuesday, but I decided I needed a little more time to take a break. So now here we are. I had some lessons while I was in Mexico that I wanted to share. I just think they're really important for. Anything in general, it doesn't have to be next time you go on vacation, just every day advice that you can have when you're doing your thing every day. First of all, this is a quick one. If you want to enjoy the most of your vacation or the most of every day in your life. Don't over-drink. I used to be able to drink like a fish when I was in my twenties and early thirties. But now as a 41 year old woman. I am a bit out of practice I basically did not do anything for the second day of vacation, which was really our first full day of vacation because I was too busy being sick and I did not like that. It was not worth it. Drinking on the first day and overdrinking. Was not worth it. It did not give me any reward. Needless to say, I missed out on some first day of family activities, which is okay. I had an emotional support bucket. Next to me. Just in case I needed it and I did need it quite a bit of times. Anyhow, that is less than number one, have fun on your vacations. But drinking doesn't always equal fun. Sometimes it equals being miserable. Yeah. There are other ways to enjoy vacation time and just your day to day. And really embrace the ways that actually give you happiness instead of a headache and a hangover. So that's lesson number one. Lesson number two is about my body or your body. I brought all these close to Mexico and I wanted to make sure I looked good for dinner and I had all these cute outfits, different bathing suits and all this stuff. I contemplated bringing a two piece because I do like to wear two pieces. Cause I like to tan my belly when I go out. And, I didn't right, cause I was hesitant. I have really nice looking bathing suits that are one pieces. Like,"it'll be fine." It wasn't necessarily I was embarrassed. But I was, and it's hard to explain it. I have always been the person that is like,"if you don't like it, don't look at it." I don't know why this time was different. I don't know if it was cause I was with Ryan, which shouldn't matter because he loves what I look like, and wearing a two-piece bathing suit to the beach is not something that he would care about. One way or the other, he would just be like, okay, you're wearing a bathing suit. And it's not about my parents, it's not about my family or my aunt, or my sister. So I don't know what the deal was that's okay. I'm not going to overthink it. The point is I had a little bit of hesitation to wear a two piece this time when I went to Mexico. So whatever reason it may be. I can figure that out another time, but that's not the point of the story. Of course not. Wearing it there's some kind of insecurity, right? Like ultimately. There was an insecurity that I had that was stopping me from wearing what I wanted to wear. And in real life, it doesn't have to be the bathing suit. It could be the tank top that shows your arms. It could be the shorter shorts that show your legs, like a short cut shirt. It could be anything: leggings, a tight fitted shirt, so many different things that people have issues with their body and clothes. So this time it happened to be a bathing suit and my body that I wasn't feeling this time. There was obviously an insecurity in me and when I got there. Everybody's just doing their own thing. Everybody's just enjoying their vacation. Everyone's wearing what they want and maybe they're not wearing what they want, but for all I know they're wearing what they want. And it just made me rethink about it. And think, nobody really cares, right? So, no one cares what I'm wearing or what I'm doing. Cause they're all minding their own business and they're on vacation. No one gives a shit, and if they do, who cares, they're not going up to me and telling me,"Hey, you look fat in your bathing suit," or"I hate your bathing suit. You look ugly." Like, no one's saying anything to me. Why does it matter? That I wear a bathing suit that's a two piece or not. Like ultimately, I just want to have a nice time and I want to be with my family and if I want to get a tan, then I can get a tan, and I held myself back from it this time. I got a great tan, but again, I prefer my belly to be tanned and it did not this time. And that's okay. I'm just going to enjoy my tan in the winter. As much as I can and no one's going to really know or see that. So it is what it is. But, it just was interesting to me how I all of a sudden had this hesitation. And it is something for me to look into because I have been doing a lot of work on like body neutrality and accepting the way I look. It's a long process and there's good days and there's bad days. I wouldn't exactly say that the time I chose to not pack it was this horrible body image day. But it was there. Because if it wasn't there, then I would have brought the two piece and I didn't. So there was a thing there for me that made me not have the best body image that day. There were people of all sizes. Everybody was doing their thing and the minding their own business and having a great time and doing the excursions and swimming in the pool and going to the beach and walking and enjoying their dinners and having some cocktails at the pool and all the things. And nobody really gave a shit. I saw all different kinds of people and lots of women in two-piece bathing suits of smaller sizes and bigger sizes. My sister is more modest in her bathing suit choices. And, she had a long sleeve top on many times or one had really pretty ruffles on the shoulders. They were really cute. She wears longer bottoms like to our ankles. And so she looks great! That's not the typical looking bathing suit, but she looks fabulous in it. And again, I wasn't necessarily worrying about what she was wearing. But, I happened to notice, it was great. And nobody cares. She was dressed more modestly. Other people were not dressed so modestly and it had the cute little French cut bottoms and thong bottoms and all the things. So everybody's choosing all types of swimwear and they all had smiles on their faces. Everyone was happy. Just wear it. Just wear what you want, if you see it and you think about it. And you're like,"I know I look at it in this." Then where it, don't be afraid of it. It's just an article of clothing and you get to wear the clothing. And you get to create the statement of what the clothing looks like on you. Like the clothing doesn't own you, it doesn't own your feelings. It doesn't own your thoughts. So where would you want. And don't be afraid to, again, this doesn't have to be swimwear. It could be: tank top. I know for the longest time I was very self-conscious about my arms. And in the middle of the summer, I wear like a little cardigan or a little sweater. And finally I was like,"fuck it. It is hot as hell. And I'm not going to suffer in this sweater. In the summer in Houston, Texas in a hundred degree weather, I'm just not." So I just decided that my happiness and the fact that I'm not sweating and miserable out in public with my friends was worth showing my arms. It didn't matter if I showed my arms because I was comfortable and I was happy and I actually felt worse in what I was wearing, when I was wearing sleeves. And not feeling myself and not being comfortable and being even more uncomfortable because of the situation of sweating, that it wasn't just show my damn arms. You know what I mean? So it was something that I was able to get over very quickly. Because I f igured out that it was worth my sanity to just learn how to not be self-conscious of my arms. And yeah, wear the damn thing if it's important to you, and if it's something that you want to wear and you like don't know if you could pull it off. And you like bought it and maybe it's a goal outfit and you're thinking about it and it fits you, but you're still not sure if it's something that you want to wear yet in front of people just do it. Take a deep breath. Do it because the worst thing that's going to happen. Is there going to feel some type of way, and then you're going to go home and change. Like nothing terrible is going to happen except for a little feeling of discomfort in your body. And we've been uncomfortable millions of times in our lives. So you'll be okay. It's going to be okay if you feel a little discomfort. But, discomfort is the price of growth. So the more you allow yourself to be uncomfortable, the more you have personal growth. It can be scary to put something on that you might not sure you can pull off, or you might think that people are going to judge you about. But people are really just doing their own thing. Nobody's looking at you. That is my lesson number two. Just in general. Have a good time. Life is too short. Enjoy yourself. One other thing that I learned while I was there was to embrace the moment. There were times where my parents were just having a blast with my niece and nephew at the beach or at the pool, or at the little splash pad that they had. And just listening to them, just loving their time with their grandparents and just cracking up and laughing and my dad doing whatever my niece wanted and being goofy and just really in love. Loving our family and being there for each other was just so beautiful. And I just really enjoyed experiencing that, like in a deeper way instead of. oh, everybody's having fun," like sitting there and taking a moment to breathe it all in and be like,"wow, this is going to be a memory for everybody for a long time. Like we're so blessed to be at this hotel and altogether, and everyone's healthy and everyone's happy and we get to spend time with each other and we get to learn about each other and make different memories." And be scared about things and not be scared about things like my nine year old niece took me zip lining. I never ziplined, I was scared as hell. And she has zip lined and she loves it. So I was like, this is going to be a memory that we're going to talk about how Titi was scared." Titi is what my family calls me as like my niece and nephew call me Titi. Yeah, like it was a really good memory and a really good feeling to be able to do something that I was scared of, that my nine-year-old niece was totally cool with and so excited to do, right? So I know that will be a great story to share later in the future, but. The point is just enjoy yourself. With everything like, enjoy yourself drinking just don't over drink because you're going to feel like crap and then you're going to miss out on a whole day of vacation. And enjoy what you're wearing. Enjoy your life. Life is too short to be questioning what clothes you want to wear. It like is hot. If it's hot, where was you want. Just do it. And it might be scary, but as a piece of cloth, and you can take it off and change, but if you wanted to give it a try, give it a try. Because everybody's just doing their thing and just minding their own business, I promise you. And, embrace those moments with your family or with your friends, or even by yourself, just anytime you have that moment in your life, where you just feel a little peace, take advantage of embracing that and taking it in and just really thinking about it deeply. Don't let that moment pass you. Take that time to appreciate your life and find the gratefulness that you have. I guess that was very appropriate for. Thanksgiving, to have thanks and be grateful. Just continue that through the holidays. If you can, if that is something that you could do during the holidays embrace every moment that you have with people that you love or. even yourself then. Take the time to do that. Remember, great things in your life when things aren't feeling so great. Sometimes life sucks and life is hard. and, knowing that you have all these special moments in your mind that you can experience and remember sometimes it can be helpful. So just take moments in your day to do that and reflect on the good times. Thank you guys so much. I will talk to you guys next week. I appreciate you for listening and have a great day. Thanks.