The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast

Episode 27: My Word of the Year

Cristina Gonzalez Episode 27

In this episode of The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast, Cristina shares her 'Word of the Year' for 2025—Connection. Cristina explains the significance of choosing a word annually, emphasizing personal and relational growth. She discusses various strategies for deepening her connections with herself, her loved ones, and her clients, including solo dates, daily journaling, and being more intentional with social interactions. Cristina encourages listeners to select their own word of the year to enhance their lives and relationships. The episode wraps up with an invitation to schedule a free consultation for personalized coaching.

00:00 Introduction to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast
00:52 Cristina's Word of the Year: Connection
02:28 Connecting with Yourself: Daily Practices
05:12 Connecting with Friends and Family
08:37 Connecting with Clients and Social Media
11:05 Conclusion and Encouragement
13:41 How to Work with Cristina

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Cristina:

You are listening to The Curvy Girl dating Podcast, Episode 27: My Word of the Year. Hi, I'm Cristina. After 10 years of dating, I was tired of attracting the wrong type of guys and thinking I had to lose weight to find love. I finally figured out how to date and I found the love I thought I would never find each week. I'll teach you dating advice, share dating stories and help you ditch the dating drama. My goal is to help you have fun and create the life you love. If you're ready to take your dating to another level, then listen up and let's go. Hey y'all! Welcome to The Curvy Girl Dating Podcast. I am recording from my sofa today, I wanted to move around and not be in my office. So I wanted to change it up. Anyhow, before the month ends, I wanted to talk about what my word of the year is. I pick a word of the year every year and my word this year is connection. I am excited to dive in this episode and tell you what connection means to me and how I'm going to make that a focus of my year this year. For me, connection is more than just a buzzword. It's about being intentional. It's about showing up, not just for other people, but for myself as well. So this year, I want to connect deeper with myself, my friends and my family, with Ryan, with Curvy Girl and of course, with you So let's be real dating, self love and confidence all start with how you feel when you're connected and how you feel about the world around you and the people around you. When you're surrounding yourself with people that you want to connect with, you can have deeper relationships. For 2025, I really want to focus on that intention to connect. If you haven't chosen a word of the year, I would encourage you to do so. You can pick connection if you'd like, or something else that resonates with you as well. With that being said, I sat and thought about connection and intention. I really wanted to make sure that I was figuring out real ways to connect, right? So I sat around and I thought about it and ways that I'm planning on connecting with myself. First of all, having the word surrounded by me. I have it on my whiteboard. I have it on my mirror in my bathroom, so I can see it around myself all the time, right? And I'll probably put it on my phone or something just so I can see and remind myself that connection is my focus this year. The way I want to connect with myself is by having some daily check ins. Every single day, I journal and I write down my food plan, what my work plans are, my goals for the day, the priorities I have. I'm going to have a little spot for the word connection and basically how I'm planning on connecting that day with either myself or with someone. And, just maybe journal about what I need in my life or, how can I show myself more love? So another way I want to connect with myself is giving myself solo dates. I talk to you guys about solo dates often and how to get yourself out there and going to go do things. And I need to do the same thing. I need to take my own advice. I have put a lot to the side and kind of changed things up since I moved last year and the routines that I loved before, I'm just not doing any more. Example, walking. I used to walk every weekend, every Saturday morning and listen to podcasts and audio books and just have a nice quiet walk in the mornings and it was great. I really enjoyed the connection that I had with myself and I was learning and just giving myself like all the positive vibes and getting some vitamin C and just really being out and about so that's something I would like to continue and create a new habit for again this year. Because I really enjoy that. Same thing with my Peloton, if you have Peloton and you want to follow me, I'm 1CurvyGirl by the way. But now that I'm putting it out into the universe, I should probably make a schedule and get on that Peloton. If you want to ride and do a ride with me, then send me a message and let's schedule it. Cause I could definitely use the accountability and the encouragement. So let's do it. That's another way to connect, right? My dog needs to go on some walks. He's got a lot of energy. He's a puppy. I would be doing us both a favor if I had some connection while going on a walk and spent some quality time with him to get some energy out and get some exercise. Those are some kind of things that I'm planning on doing for myself, but with friends and family, I know that a lot of times in the last few years, I really haven't spent a lot of time going out and said no to a lot of things because I am either working on Curvy Girl or I'm just tired and I need rest. I really love being at home, but like I tell you guys, if you want a life and you want to go do things and just live it up, then going to do things is how to make it happen. I again want to follow my own advice and get out and do things and especially be with my friends and family and appreciate them more. So saying yes to invitations is one thing that I want to do and commit to as well. For example, I've already done really this year. I know it's only been a few weekends, but I was invited to watch football and celebrate a birthday this year with, my friend. And I hadn't seen this group of people for a very long time. I went and I was very excited to go cause I really wanted to go spend time and celebrate this birthday. I had to decide what was more important, connection and getting a chance to spend time and celebrate a birthday and see some friends and catch up with people or sitting at home watching reruns and doing nothing. Making the effort to go see my friend was more important. I wanted to go do that and I committed to what I wanted to do. So that was one thing, and then I signed up for a chili and gumbo cookoff with my uncle. I think I talked about it last week, but, I signed up for that and it was super fun and we had a great time. It was really cold, but I got to be social. I got to get some exercise, be outside, connect with my whole family because they came to support us and the cookoff and we didn't win anything, but we had a great time anyways and got to socialize with people in the neighborhood and our neighbors. It was a lot of fun. Other ways that I haven't done before, which I think would be a great way to connect with people this year is just checking in with random friends that I haven't talked to in a long time, sending a little text message."Hey, how's it going? I'm just thinking about you," sending a voice message or a text or, getting some time to get on a zoom and talk to somebody. A lot of times, we don't have time or we live far away and committing to go get coffee isn't really reasonable. So getting on a zoom call is possible, and keeping up that way. Picking up my niece and nephew and going to do something with them or babysitting more and connecting with them, whatever. But doing that, I know is another way to connect with my family and just asking them deep questions that are more than the surface level,"Hey, how are you today?" Asking what's going on in their life right now that's exciting. What are they looking forward to? Do they have any goals that they're trying to achieve? How are they really feeling lately? What's going on? Do they need to talk about something? I think having some compassion and really focus on having those deep conversations is so important. Some other ways that I'd like to connect with people that I'm close to or I want to get close to, and with Curvy Girl and my clients, I really want to make sure that I'm listening to them on another level, like on how I can serve and be a better coach, as well as ideas and things that I could do differently or better or anything that can help support my clients or my business. I'm all about it. And I just want to engage in not just the professional way, but also on another personal level as well. Committing to that, showing more about my personal life on stories and things like that. I am not the best at social media and it's something that I would like to do because I love following people on social media and I feel like they're friends because they post so much and like I know who they are and what they do and what they're thinking and stuff like that I enjoy that, even though they're total strangers, right? I know deep down, this person's a stranger, but I enjoy following people and getting to know them through social media. And it's always a struggle because I have the thoughts like,"who wants to see what I'm eating today?" Or"who cares if I'm cooking dinner tonight?" But yeah, I would like to post more and share more of my personal life. And I think one big way of doing that is by going out and planning things and having solo dates and taking care of myself and being social with my friends and family. That is the way I can connect. Nobody wants to see me sitting on the couch watching Seinfeld again for the millionth time. I would like to have all of that go together in my connection with myself and the people around me. So it's all together. Do you see how it's building up? It's personal connection for myself and going out and seeing people and living my life and being intentional is creating this whole entire life that is much more fulfilling than, just sitting around enjoying the comfort of my own home, which is also a good way to connect, but, being able to do multiple things and enjoying connection in different ways is also a bonus. So I think that is something that I'm going to work on. anyhow. I just wanted to share what my word of the year was, and I definitely encourage you to create and find a word of the year for yourself as well. Something that resonates with you, something that you want to improve on, and it could be something little. Like peace, if you want quiet time for yourself, if you want, more joy in your life, how are you going to create more joy? That's fine, too. There is no wrong answer on the word of the year. If it's boundaries, maybe you want to create boundaries for the year. That is also one as well. People pleasing, if you want to reduce your people pleasing. There's probably a better word for that, but that could be something that you can have as a word of the year again, like boundaries. So many things that you could do to create a better version of yourself every single day. I think that's important with dating as well. Again, with connections and creating, relationships. Of course, you're not going to connect with every single person and be a match with every single date that you go on, but learning how to practice having genuine connection and having conversations and creating the connection with yourself and being more confident in who you are and owning who you are and what you do. And being proud of yourself and all the things is a great way to embrace connection and embrace dating as well. So think about what your word of the year is. I would love to know what that would be for you. I'm excited to hear what you have, maybe it's freedom, maybe it's resilience, maybe it's growth. I definitely encourage you to try that. Send me your word of the year and why you chose that word. would love to hear what you have, that's a wrap for today's episode, and I hope you're walking away with some inspiration to make 2025 a good year for you and finding the right word for you, maybe connection is it, but whether it's connection or something else, I think that having a word to focus on is really important. A great tool to have in your back pocket. I just wanted to share that with you guys today, and I'm super excited and looking forward to all the new things that I'm going to try and the ways that I'm going to connect differently than I have before in the past and just discover and learn different things about myself and other people. I'm looking forward to seeing how that goes. If you want to learn how to work with me, I have a link in my show notes of how to get a consultation. You can have a free consultation with me. If you would like to learn how to work with me and we can work on anything. It doesn't have to just be dating. It could be your personal goals, business goals, dating goals, anything that you have that you want to work on and you feel like you need some coaching and some accountability for, I'm happy to help. So schedule a consultation and we'll talk about it and see if it's a good match or a good fit. And you got nothing to lose, right? It's a conversation that we would have. That's it. Or if you have questions, of course, email me anytime. I'm always available and happy to respond to any of your questions. Thank you so much. I will talk to you next week.